Marlene Aguirre, 24 years old
Mistaking lust for love is not a new thing. The younger you are and the earlier you find yourself in a budding relationship, the more likely you are to confuse one for the other. With your hormones raging and your mind floating into a euphoric fantasy during the throes of romance, the line that divides the two gets pretty blurred… along with your sense of judgment. The love-lust dynamic can be likened to making a bonfire. Think of lust as the kindling that starts the fire. Kindling burns easily and flares up when ignited, but it burns fast and dies easily, just like a relationship built on lust. Love, on the other hand, can be thought as the larger of pieces of wood; it burns longer and steadier.
Jump to navigation. It can be difficult to be clear-headed in a dating relationship. It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. Optimism for a relationship can cloud judgment. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes. Not only would it be dating without lust, but downright selfish. While you do not have to commit to marrying this person right away, you should realize that any guy-girl relationship you begin has the potential to end in marriage.
Dating in can be a challenge. I'm sorry, let me rephrase: It suuuuuuuuccckkkkksssss. They're often more hazard than help, and the forced psychoanalysis of every picture and witty answer can shake even the most durable of confidences loose. Why am I not getting more matches?
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Chat or rant, adult content, spam, insulting other members, show more. Harm to minors, violence or threats, harassment or privacy invasion, impersonation or misrepresentation, fraud or phishing, show more. Yahoo Answers. How does a Christian date without lust and judgment? Here's how I date: How do you date without lust and judgment? Seems impossible. Thanks for the dating tip, Duck Vader. I don't know if you picked up on it, but my description of how I date was a little condensed to save the reader time. Hope that helps.
No wonder young people are confused if this is what they are seeing in their music and movie idols. So often also parents have not always been a godly example or influence in the lives of their children. Where are we to find good examples then of how it is suppose to be for dating and courting? First off the goal in dating or courting should be to find the life long mate that God wants for us. This is one of the most important decisions a person will make in their entire life outside of receiving the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior. You might ask, is there any Scripture on these subjects, and thankfully there are. It would be strange if the best answer book in the world did not have an answer on the second most important subject in the world. To me the best example of a godly young person in the Old Testament that avoided lust and later married for love was Joseph. The Bible says that we are all subject to the same temptations.
Mr Stok shares his insight about relationships that he learned from his own experience and his studies of social behavior. I have a theory: If you love someone, and you have a strong respect for your partner, then you may have trouble experiencing lust. Love in a relationship can keep two people together and lust can keep the relationship alive. However, what happens when "respect" gets in the way? Somehow lust and respect don't work well together. Maybe that's true, but before I go any further, I think a definition of lust is important